If you are trans or non-binary, it’s common to get asked, “when did you know you were trans?”
Same for: “when did you know you were polyamorous?” and “when did you know you were gay (or pansexual)?”
These are valid questions to ask and valuable to reflect on.
Here are some less common but some equally valuable questions for folks who identify with a relationship paradigm, gender, or sexuality that matches the mainstream:
👉🏻 When did you know you were a woman / man?
👉🏻 When did you know you were monogamous?
👉🏻 When did you know you were straight?
If you identify as any of those three, it could be interesting to reflect on when you knew. Maybe there was a moment. Maybe it isn’t a question you’ve asked; in which case, there could be a beautiful opportunity for some identity introspection.
There’s no shame in having preferences that match the mainstream or preferences that clash with the mainstream. We want whoever you are! And self-inquiry is always useful to clarify who you are and what you like.
If you’d like to further your exploration on gender and intimacy, I wrote a whole ebook getting deeper into the topic. It’s called “Beyond Sacred Masculine and Feminine: How to bridge the worlds of sacred intimacy, personal growth, and queerness to heal our culture gender wounds and transcend the patriarchy.” Check it out below!
I hope you have a day full of intimacy! With yourself, with life, and with other people 💕✨